Rant of the Day: Take a Seat this may get Bitchy....

Hey Everybody,

So for any singles out there, you know that feeling is here. The feeling of love and loneliness. Today and the past week have honestly been terrible for me. Even though I know the true meaning of Valentine's Day and the true sacrifice of St.Valentine, somedays, especially days like today make it hard to keep the old saint in perspective. So if any of you actually know me, then you know that this past week, if you've seen me on campus, my face has looked like this:

Normally, I'm a pretty go with the flow kind of girl. Yet, sometimes I just can't go with the flow and I have to take a few minutes to remind myself that that's okay. So for those of you that felt thrown off your game due to the impending day of love read the article above. This is not a Hallmark holiday. If you don't have a great love to celebrate go out that day and do you. Maybe that means searching all the parties, clubs and bars for "the one", maybe that means sitting at home eating the least nutritional snack to be found and working on yourself as a person, and maybe it means that you haven't found that person yet and you have your whole life ahead of you. 

So do yourself a favor and for every negative thought you have about Valentine's Day, counter it with a positive one. If you don't even want to think about looking for a future partner, then don't. Hang out with friends or family and celebrate those kinds of loves. Valentine's Day does not always mean romantic love. When your parents gave you Valentine's gifts as a child, the obviously didn't mean it romantically. So instead of moping about what isn't, celebrate what is. 

Now, if you thought that was the rant, you are sorely mistaken. Did any of you see that Yak the other day about how (excuse the paraphrasing) : we're only in college, be chill, we don't need to worry about serious relationships right now. 

I'm not going to say that's completely wrong....but that's completely wrong. College is about finding who you are and who that is in context with other people:  friends, family and love interests. So, excuse me if I'm understanding this incorrectly, but why is it wrong for someone to want to find someone they connect with, not just for a minute, or a night of sex, but for a few years or if you're feeling ambitious, even a lifetime?

That's the one problem I have with the society of today: the hook-up culture. Now if I were Dr. Brennan, I would be cheering for this kind of society, because anthropologically speaking, humans aren't meant to be completely monogamous. I see that fact and I play a trump card. If that were the case, then how were older couples able to stay married for fifty plus years? Is the entire history of mankind before us an anomaly to humankind? Yes, I know there were gender equalities and dark views of divorce, but look at your parents and grandparents and try to think of them cheating on each other, or being with another person. Now that you've done that, did you shudder a little at how wrong it felt, imagining them with someone else? I did. When you find someone that you're completely comfortable and in love with or can see yourself getting to that point, you don't normally throw it away.

Back then, men and women only dated ( or more appropriately "courted") each other, if they saw that person as a potential spouse. Nowadays, we degrade not only ourselves, but each other, by looking at each person as if they are part of a game of Kiss, Date, or Marry. It demeans are self-worth to imagine that another person is only worth what you deem them. Games and thoughts like that make me shudder. Can you imagine the next generation (our children) viewing each other as disposable? 

I'm not saying that it's wrong to hook-up with other people. Sometimes people that aren't in a committed relationship need to release sexual tension, it's healthy to do that. But if that's all you're doing, then I feel sorry for you. Because people are not objects. A man or a woman is not a tissue that you blow your nose into once and then toss away. If empathy is hard for you, then think of another person viewing you that way. Think of a person looking at you and taking you only at face value or class-room interactions and making a snap judgement about what you're worth.  

Think about that. If you don't agree, comment. If you do, comment. 

END RANT.

Thanks for reading and I hope you guys are able to make it through the next few weeks.